Better Than (you know what) Cake

Better than (you know what) cake from FavFamilyRecipes.comThis better than (you know what) cake is always our go-to when we need to whip up a quick dessert. Of course, the traditional name of this cake is something… different… but because this is Favorite “FAMILY” Recipes and because this is a family-friendly site… we will let you fill in the blank on your own ๐Ÿ˜‰ย  This really is always a hit with guests! It’s nothing fancy, just sinfully delicious cake. We have made this several different ways, you can add any kind of chopped up candy bars on the top, but we love Skor and/or Health bars the best. We have made this with chopped up Butterfinger before and it is just as good. Make it with your favorite candy to make it just right for YOU. You can also make it fun for kids by adding mini M&M’s or even Reese’s pieces.

Better Than (you know what) Cake


  • 1 pkg. devil's food, chocolate, or German chocolate cake mix
  • 1 can sweetened condensed milk
  • caramel ice cream topping
  • 1 (8 oz.) container frozen whipped topping, thawed
  • 4-5 Health or Skor bars, chopped up


  • Bake cake according to package directions for a 9x13 inch pan; cool for about 5 minutes. Using the handle of a wooden spoon, poke holes into the cake. Let the cake cool for a little while. Slowly pour sweetened condensed milk over the cake, letting it sink into the holes; then drizzle some of the caramel over the top of the cake.
  • Let cake cool completely (I usually cover it and put it in the fridge for a while). Top cake with whipped topping. Decorate the top of the cake with candy bar chunks and swirls of caramel topping. Refrigerate a little longer, then serve!


  1. Devery says:

    I love this cake so much, but sometimes I make it with Reeses Peanut Butter Cups instead of Skor bars and it is AMAZING!!

    • Angel says:

      I do too! And I have a recipe where you put I believe 1/2 cup mini chocolate chips into the cake mix after it’s mixed well and then once you poke the holes put 1 jar hot fudge sauce and 1 jar caramel sauce (I heat them up just a bit) and then the whipped cream on top once cooled and top with reese cups! its wonderful!

      • cheryl says:

        Would like this recipe sounds great


        i I love this recipe. Can’t wait to make it.

      • farbarb says:

        Like your recipe better than the sweetened condensed milk.

        • Erica says:

          Thanks ๐Ÿ˜€

    • Sheila says:

      I use Butterfinger candy bars. Amazing!

    • wendy says:

      id love to have that receipe plz sounds devine

  2. Christi and Clifton says:

    You have to try forking up the whole cake (instead of holes)and then drizzling-it makes it more uniform and awesome. Also freezing this cake takes it to a whole new level. I also like to put the heath bars on the cake before and after the whipped cream. It is a hit every time. One of my favorites-can you tell? :)

    • Meg says:

      Christi and Clifton ~ You said that freezing it takes it to a whole new level. Did you eat it frozen then or did you let it start to thaw? I thought about making this and freezing it, due to time. Then the morning I was going to use it, pull it out of the freezer and let it thaw till lunch time. I didn’t know how the cake would thaw. I didn’t want it to ruin the yumminess of the cake. Thanks.

  3. Lindsey says:

    This cake is a family favorite in both mine and my husband's families, the only difference is that his family has always called it "Better Than Sex Cake" while my family calls it "ALMOST better than sex cake." I've always gotten a kick out of that comparison.

    • Melb says:

      Love this cake too..but my husband calls it “better after sex” cake..haha…

    • Tracy says:

      Thats what ive always heard it called except they call it better then anything cake on the back of German chocolate cake mix! So delicious!

  4. The Crandall's says:

    One thing that I do differently is that I add Hot Fudge AS WELL as the Caramel! It makes it so so much better :)!

  5. Amber says:

    Is the cake soggy at all? It looks amazing!

    • Donna Wichert says:

      It is amazing! No is the answer if cake gets soggy….When you put it back in the fridge, it hardens back up…It is soooo good! Im making it right now! You must try :-)

      • Mel says:

        much better to put fork holes in the cake instead of giant holes… this is also how you make jello cake (minus the chocolate and carmal and candy bars) but so devine in it’s own right … yummmmmmm

  6. Mandy says:

    Looks AMAZING! I've been meaning to try and make this one. Thanks for the recipe! I always trust your recipes!! :) So by whipped topping do you mean 'Cool Whip'?

  7. Erica says:


    • Monique says:

      Can I use homemade whipping cream or should I use cool whip?

      • Erica says:

        You can use homemade… cool whip is just easiest!

  8. The Quinn Family says:

    We couldn't find any Skor bars at our grocery store in Maryland so we used heath bars and a few cinnamon covered pecan toffee pieces. Everyone just loved this!! It reminds me of a coconut tres leche style cake that I make with the condensed milk being poured into holes in the cake. I used to not like cake because they can be try, with the milk poured into the cake holes I am not a cake fan again!

  9. Mandy says:

    Do you think this cake would do ok in the fridge overnight or would it get too soggy? Should I hold off on toppings until closer to serving it?

    • Donna Wichert says:

      I put the last one in over night and put the cool whip and topping on before I went to outing.

  10. Katie Elliott says:

    I always refrigerate mine over night. It is much better that way. And it doesn't get soggy…just gooey! Yum!

  11. Emily says:

    Wow – this is quite the cake! Definitely a treat…I treated myself to this cake to celebrate finishing grad school. It's super delicious and easy to make!

  12. krossman says:

    in LOVE this cake but i make it with butterfinger ITS TO DIE FOR!!!!!!!

  13. Unknown says:

    How do you do the coconut tres leche style cake? Big fan of coconut!

    • Lorene Schober says:

      You should try the pinacalada cake. You use coconut milk in the holes then cover with a can of crushed pineapple drained and cover top with coconut.
      Bake a yellow cake.

      • Echo says:

        Yum! That sounds amazing. I will try it – I love pineapple and coconut. Thank you for the idea… it may be an upcoming post!

  14. Patsy says:

    Boy, does this sound delicious! I am following your blog. Patsy

  15. KJ Kidd says:

    Making this for my dad’s birthday tomorrow! Can’t wait!

  16. angie says:

    I make this with other kinds of candy bars and it is great!!!! This is an easy cake to make and pretty hard to mess up. LOVE IT!!!!!

  17. angie says:


  18. Susanne says:

    Love this, simple and tasty…I replaced the whipped topping with Whipped Cream instead…YUMMO!

  19. Andrene says:

    I made this and it was amazing! I got it off Pinterest. I wanted to share on facebook, but I can’t seem to do it. Actually, this is one of the best desserts I have made. I am a pie lover, but this is over the top!

  20. Judey Hatler says:

    Could you use real whip cream for the topping?

    • Emily says:

      I haven’t tried that but I am sure it would work!

    • Crystal says:

      Don’t use real whip cream from the can because it melts quickly and makes a mess. You want to use tub whipped topping.

      • Emily says:

        Cool Whip

        • Susan says:

          Or put a little bit of gelatin into the fresh whip cream to stabilize it for a day.

  21. Amber says:

    I’ve made this hundreds of times and call it Better Than Sex Cake. It’s always a hit and so simple to make. Yum yum!

  22. Crystal says:

    My sister in law first introduced me to this cake and its now my absolute favorite! I love this cake ๐Ÿ˜€ I don’t think I have met anyone thats tried it that did not like it!

  23. Tjordan says:

    Has anyone done this in a cupcake? Does it work or make the papers soggy? TIA!

  24. Myrna says:

    We make this cake but call it PMS cake. It is delish!!!!!!

  25. Becly says:

    I am trying to find a healthier recipe for Easter for my inlaws..They told me to bring a dessert but it cannot be healthy. So just to prove them wrong I want to make something “healthier”. Do you think there is a way to tweak this to make it “Healthier?

    • Erica says:

      Becky– I don’t know what to tell you! I don’t know how to make this healthy without taking away from the taste! Maybe use light whipped topping and applesauce instead of oil in the cake mix? That is all I can come up with off the top of my head. Sorry I couldn’t be of more help!

    • Crystal says:

      You can use light or sugar-free whipped topping, caramel, sweetened condensed milk. They even have low-sugar chocolate cake. It doesn’t make it “healthy,” but healthier.

    • Kirsten Chong says:

      If you are a coconut fan, I would pour coconut milk over the cake instead of sweetened condensed milk. use sugar free caramel syrup, melt down dark dark chocolate bars and drizzle over, use berries instead of candy bars (rasberries, blueberries, chopped strawberries). You can stick with cool whip, but I would whip up my own heavy whipping cream (it is considered a “healthy” fat :-)

      I have to stay away from sugar and starch so to make this recipe I’m making my own chocolate cake w/coconut flour and unsweetened cocoa powder sweetened with xylitol. Haven’t tried it yet but I’m excited to!

  26. ChristyG says:

    This is has been a long time family favorite…. in the old days it was also known as the Robert Redford cake…
    When my daughter went off to college, she called home for the recipe and I couldn’t, in good concious pass it along to her with its “sinful” name to make for her college roommates…. and since she was too young to know Robert Redford movies, I quickly called it the Tom Selleck Cake and it’s been known by that ever since…
    Ha ha ha
    Everyone who eats this loves it and who doesn’t love Tom Selleck!!!

  27. Donna says:

    Ok just put the cake in the oven..I got this from pintrest…looking for a fun bday cake for my Husband tonight,I hope it comes out as good as it looks!!!!!!!!!!! Thanks so much

  28. Sharon Ann Rowland says:


    I’m Australian and I tried this recipe last night with Tim Tams (chocolate covered biscuits very popular here) and it was fanbloodytastic. Have a good week!

    Sharon Ann

  29. Chelsie says:

    I just made this tonight and LOVE it! I folded the cool whip into a little bit of instant vanilla pudding (just like with jello cake) to give it a little extra creaminess and flavor. DELICIOUS! :)

    • ladyk says:

      Will you please email me the jello cake recipe? It sounds great! Email:

  30. annie says:

    love love love this cake! We are making it for my birthday tomorrow (as we have for every other birthday!!) My mom always called it “better than tom selleck cake” growing up… : )

  31. cheri says:

    Does it have to stay refrigerated after you make it? I want to make this for a staff get together at work but there won’t be a refrigerator there.

    • Erica says:

      I like it best refrigerated but room temp isn’t bad. The cake is more moist at room temp so that’s a plus I guess!

  32. Jane says:

    It is good but I have a similiar receipe that is much better. Use a butter pecan cake mix instead of the chocolate, omit the whipped cream and add chopped skor bars to the top after you pour the sweetened milk on it. The bars melt on the top of the cake. Toooo DIE for!!!! MUCH better than this receipe. I wouldn’t make this again.

    • Lois Broyles says:

      Thanks for all the replys. I could not find skor candy bars. Glad to know I can use reeses peanut butter cups or health. Thanks again
      I am from Cushig, OK

  33. charne says:

    Do you think that I could use strawberry (raspberry?) syrup instead of the caramel and omit the crushed candy bar on top??? I am thinking of making this for my friends birthday party and she isn’t fond of chocolate candy of caramel… any tips???

    • Erica says:

      Honestly, you can use whatever you would like! I have never done it before but it sounds like it could be good!

  34. cimberlee says:

    Ever tried it with butterscotch instead of carmel…mmmmmmmmm that was a hit also

  35. Amanda says:

    This cake is a huge hit with my family & friends. Every time we have get together’s I already know what I’m supposed to bring. I have also used this with yellow cake mix & butterfingers. It is good as well. It’s hard to find Heath Bars around here for some reason so if I can’t find them I have used Snicker bars & Recces Bits as well.

  36. Lisa says:

    I used Butter Pecan Cake Mix (because I was out of chocolate). It was delicious too!!! It is a favorite at my house.

  37. Steph says:

    If I don’t have sweeten condense milk. Can I substitute with evaporated milk? Or just not add milk, since I don’t have any?

    • Elise says:

      Sorry, you need to use sweetened condensed milk for it to turn out properly.

  38. Barbara says:

    I plan to make this for a picnic. Sounds fantastic! I was wondering how it is to cut. Maybe should just spoon it out? I think that would work ok. What’s you’re opinion?

    • Erica says:

      You should be able to cut it with a knife and serve it up, but spooning it out would work fine too!

  39. Flamesgirl15 says:

    OMG..this is sooooo delicious.

  40. brit says:

    So left over cake should be stored in the fridge or room temperature?

    • Erica says:

      Definitely in the fridge.

  41. Peggy says:

    We want to make this into cupcakes and freeze until being served next week, any comments?

  42. Margie says:

    This is the best cake ever. I have made this probably 5 times this summer. Everyone loves it. I am making it again today for another cookout. Thank you for PInterest.

  43. Margie says:

    Thank you to Erica also….

    • Erica says:

      You are very welcome! I’m glad you like it!

  44. Sue says:

    I save this for very special events. I made it for work for a United Way auction and it won $50 for the contribution. I also use it for whenever I want to thank someone for doing a great job. They are so amazed that someone makes cakes I dare not say how easy it is.
    Great fun.

  45. sandy says:

    I have made this cake for years (over15) but i always used yellow cake…. Its still just as good.

  46. Jackie says:

    I just made this tonight and LOVE it! I DELICIOUS!

  47. Liz says:

    Do you think it would be ok to use something besides cool whip, like some other type of frosting or cream filling? I want to make this for my boyfriend but he’s not a huge fan of cool whip.

    • Emily says:

      You could try doing regular whipped cream, that would probably be the closest thing to cool whip. I think frosting would make it too rich. Maybe cheesecake flavored pudding….

  48. Emily says:

    Making this for the first time–our kid friendly name is “Better than Hockey” cake…

  49. Christine says:

    Can you make it the night before you need it?

    • Emily says:

      You can, but it will begin to get a little soggy. It is best made the day you will be serving it.

  50. Celesteina says:

    This looks so yummy!!!

  51. Gena Alimi says:

    this is not the “better than sex cake” my momma used to make nd i miss it so much. this looks delicious nd i will make this nd check it out…..

  52. Dodie Ortega says:

    I use butterfinger candy bars and either butterscotch or caramel ice cream topping. I do not use the sweetened condensed milk and it is heavenly:) In fact several members of the family request this cake for their Birthday every year.

  53. Angela says:

    I have been making this cake for years! It’s my kids favorite, but we have always called it Butterfinger Cake because I’ve always used yellow cake mix and butterfinger candy bars on top. The rest is the same. I always put it in the refrigerator overnight and put the cool whip and candy bars on right before serving. We think it’s always better a day or two later….more gooey!! YUMMY!!!

  54. Amanda says:

    This recipe is also very good with the chocolate eagle brand sweet and condensed milk!

  55. Amber Hammonds says:

    Just made this for my cousins birthday party tonight!! I’ve tried it once before! Thanks for posting it so I could get the recipe!

  56. Laki says:

    There’s glutten free and sugar free cake mixes offered by betty crocker brand and other brands at walmart for those asking for healthier conversions. other ingredients you could probably go light on cool whip or instant light pudding vanilla or banana mix i imagine works well too.

  57. Kendel says:

    What size can of milk?

  58. Maria says:

    Hi, I know it’s been eleventy months since you posted this, but I’m thinking about making this because I read somewhere that it’s also called “Slap yo momma twice cake” and I want to gift it to my mom and call it that. ๐Ÿ˜› The problem is that I live in Greece and we don’t have skor bars here… Would something like twix do? Or snickers? I can’t think of many alternatives, but it seems to me like these two would fit…

    • Erica says:

      Sure any of those would work… I just like the crunch of stor bars. Maybe try any other kind of chocolate covered toffee… Or butterfinger would probably be ok too.

  59. Donnalee says:

    When I don’t have sweetened condensed milk I omit it and it turns out great. I use Mrs. richardson’s butterscotch caramel. I am not a fan of score bar so I top with crushed Oreos. Yum… My husband calls this score cake with or without the candy bar.

  60. Chong Kerstein says:

    Wow, marvelous weblog layout! How long have you been blogging for? you make blogging glance easy. The overall look of your website is great, let alone the content!

    • Emily says:

      Thank you! We have been doing this for about 6 years.

  61. Danielle says:

    I see a lot of people are having a hard time finding Skor bars as I was. I decided to take teh ten minutes extra and make my own toffee at home. Worked great and it always tastes better when you know its all been made at your own hand.

  62. Laurel King says:

    We call it ALMOST better than Sex cake. We laugh at those who call it “Better than” :)

    We fork the cake but not all the way to the bottom, and drizzle sweetened condensed milk, a jar of caramel sauce, and a jar of chocolate fudge sauce, then keep it refrigerated over night. The next day right before serving, cool whip with crumbled SKOR bar all over it. I even mix in a dry pistachio pudding mix in with the cool whip sometimes. So GOOD!!

  63. Maria says:

    Can it be frozen for mail out purposes?

    • Emily says:

      I’m not sure, I haven’t tried that. It might be easier to mail the ingredients with directions on how to make it.

      • Maria says:

        I made this yummy cake 5 times already but I also put Oreo cookies on top of it and it’s so delicious….

  64. Jaynie says:

    We call it “Holy Cow Cake” because when you eat it, you say, Holy Cow, that is so delicious!

  65. Louise says:

    I was in a hurry, poked the holes then added the condensed milk etc..right away..waiting now for it to cool..hope I didn’t ruin it..after I’ll put the cream on and its in the fridge..has anyone else done that..please say it was okay…thanks

  66. Cynthia says:

    If you’re going to post recipes then please make sure all ingredients (words) are spelled correctly. I don’t think you mean “health” bars. Don’t you mean heath candy bars?

    • Erica says:

      lol yes, it must have auto-corrected me

      • Bernie says:

        if you look by the chocolate chips there are bags of Heath bar bits. I don’t know for sure what they are called but that is what I use on “Death by Chocolate”. I am making the (I am going to call it) OMG cake for a family reunion tomorrow..can not wait!

  67. Suzanne says:

    Made this for my family Easter celebration this year and it was a HUGE success! Everyone had seconds! Not sure if it was better then you-know-what though…(lol)

  68. marge says:

    The SWEETENED condensed milk makes it way too sweet. I use Mrs RICHARDSON’S CARAMEL FUDGE ice cream topping, heated a little , then cool whip and candy bars, so good!!

  69. Mandy - Frugal Full Time Mom says:

    This looks great and very easy to make. I will be trying it out for Easter this year as I am responsible for the dessert.

  70. Crystal says:

    I can hardly wait to make this cake for Easter!! I’m wondering if it would work in 2- 9″ round cake pans to form in the shape of a bunny or if all the gooey stuff is better in the 9 x 13′ pan??

  71. Ellen says:

    Great cake, always a crowd pleaser. I use the fork method instead of the handle of the wooden spoon, and use hot fudge ice cream topping instead of caramel topping. I always freeze the Heath Bars in the wrapper then take a hammer to them while they are still wrapped. This makes less of a mess. Then I sprinkle the candy from the wrapper onto the cake. Ellen.

  72. Diane says:

    I make it at Halloween and we call it the Gooey Goblin Cake! I always buy a bag of Heath toffee bits for the top…costs less and is a lot easier than pulverizing Heath bars!

    • Erica says:

      Oh Diane– great idea! I had no idea there was such a thing! THANK YOU!

  73. JMD says:

    I love this cake too and have made it often. It’s always a hit. I do one thing differently, however. I mix half the jar of caramel sauce with the sweetened condensed milk before pouring it over the cake. Oh YUM!!

  74. Renee Goff says:

    I make this cake ALL the time for events and I NEVER come home with any! The only difference I do is that use a chocolate cake mix and 12 oz of diet coke and mix it together and back as directed! You can very it with dr. pepper or cherry coke, ect!! you can not even taste that it was made with diet coke and I get asked the recipe ALL the time!!

    • Karyn Bloom says:

      How much coke do you put in?

      • Echo says:

        This recipe doesn’t call for coke… did you mean to ask this question on another recipe?

  75. Frances Joy Barker says:

    This sounds so good and delicious so i will make it for my Church dinner after our service !! I’m so grateful for the share and all of the compliments on this truly amazing Cake Love The Way It Sounds Just So Scrumptious and Yummy Yours Truly Joy B.

    • Erica says:

      Thanks so much for your comment! Hope everyone at your church enjoys it! ๐Ÿ˜€

  76. pamela says:

    I just finish making this cake for my Birthday . i will let you know how it came out. keeping my fingers cross . Thank you for the recipe.

    • Echo says:

      I hope it turned out great! Happy Birthday!

  77. Lilian says:

    Can anybody help… we do not get SKOR bars in Singapore. What can I replace this with?

    • Echo says:

      Do you have HEATH bars? They are essentially the same as a SKOR bar. It is a toffee candy bar covered in milk chocolate – similar to English Toffee. In the U.S. you can also get toffee bits that are used for baking, and these work really well too.

  78. Kim says:

    I have made this several times however I use hot fudge topping with smashed up malted milk balls. A huge hit among young adults.

    • Erica says:

      Great idea! Mmm, that sounds so good!!! We will have to try it with the malt balls next time!

  79. Brit says:

    It looks nice but I don’t understand why so many desserts use packet mix? Why not make the cake from scratch? So many American recipes do this- does no one bake in the states? I’m going to try it but actually make the cake myself rather than cheating with horrible packet mix- you guys should try it!

      • Pat says:

        Yes, I did but I used heath bar bits instead of nuts. I took it to work and everyone s a I’d it was to die for. It must have been, a lot of people didn’t get any!!!!!

  80. Christy says:

    I have a recipe called “Better than Sex” cake, but instead of actual cake, it calls for chocolate pudding, and the crust/topping is nuts. Anyone else tried this version?

  81. Judy Richards says:

    Can you replace the condensed milk with anything else?

    • Echo says:

      If you don’t want to use sweetened condensed milk, you can just use extra caramel or butterscotch topping. It works just as well. When I first started making this cake, that is all that I used. Thank you for asking!

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